Well I'm sure many of you have read Lorna's blog entries over the last couple of days so you will know that my dad is dead.
He wasn't supposed to. I was simply supposed to go up there see him wish him well getting home and see him in time for Sunday supper. But no I got to Kamloops and my dad could barely talk and the Dr. told us he would be gone in a matter of days. We sat with him, we cried, we told stories and we laughed. He was in a 4 person room (ward) and let me tell you there is no privacy there but the other patients were very respectful of us there all night never said anything about it, except one lady, Sue this woman a complete stranger became our angel after one hour of seeing us she offered her home to us. She lives near the hospital and seeing as she was a patient knew she wouldn't need it for a while. She lost her husband a little over a year ago and knew all to well what mom is going through. We didn't need to take her up on her offer but she was always there to check up on dad and us she even sat with my mom early Sat morn.
I was glad a bunch of us family was able to make it up to say goodbye to dad and I"ll be ever thankful that my boss let me take as much time as I needed to be with my mom and dad. I couldn't imagine leaving my mom to deal with that alone.
On monday a spot came open in the hospice so he was transferred there. What a blessing that was. It was calm, peaceful and beautiful. I said to my sister the difference between the hospital and the hospice was like the going to a hotel or going to your cousins place. We were able to watch the evening news together, something we used to do when I was still at home. I was surprised how much I felt the need to do that. At about 8pm the being of the end started, I got a text from Lorna somehow Sadie knew it was happening. My mom and I held his hand told him we loved him and such things, I sang a song that he liked and one about how much I will miss him. Then slowly, peacefully just as the sun was going over the mountains James Lorne Hull breathed his last breath and I cried and said Thank you dad.
Dad had wished to be a organ donor. Because of liver and renal failure his internal organs were not able to be donated but 2 people will be able to see because he gave them him corneas. that was very like my dad willing to help where he could. It has given me a great deal of peace knowing my grief will help someone else. I urge you all to talk with your families and become a donor
Finally I would like to thank you all for your prayers and wishes. Know that in many ways your prayers were answered.
A most heartfelt thank you to our friends who came over with "casseroles". When I was away looking after my mom I'm glad someone was here looking after me and my family.
I saw a woman this weekend put herself aside to help me and my sister's family. First it was dog sitting then it was care for a 13 year old then it was .....then it was ....... there was always something else I wanted her to be with me and I know she also wanted to say goodbye to my dad. But she made it available for others to that instead. The true make of selflessness. Lorna from the bottom of heart and for all eternity I will be grateful.
Cam
Tuesday, August 28, 2007
called home
Thursday, August 23, 2007
My Dad
I got a msg from my mom today, and I knew it wasn't good. All she wrote was "call me".
My dad hasn't been well for a long time, but when she told me he was in the hospital It felt like I got hit in the stomach, you know people say that and I often wondered if it did really feel like that well it does. It didn't surprise me like I said he hasn't been well but..... so I'm off to Kamloops with my Mom to be with him this weekend. Oh did I forget to mention he's in F**KING Kamloops!!!! He was at their cabin when he got himself to the hospital in 100 mile then they transfered him to Kamloops. We are going to see if he can be transfered down here.
My dad hasn't been well for a long time, but when she told me he was in the hospital It felt like I got hit in the stomach, you know people say that and I often wondered if it did really feel like that well it does. It didn't surprise me like I said he hasn't been well but..... so I'm off to Kamloops with my Mom to be with him this weekend. Oh did I forget to mention he's in F**KING Kamloops!!!! He was at their cabin when he got himself to the hospital in 100 mile then they transfered him to Kamloops. We are going to see if he can be transfered down here.
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